Being Joy-Filled in the Real, Messy, Every, “Momma-said there’d be days” Kind of Days

I’ve been wrestling with this idea of having joy for quite a while.  It always seemed too hard to achieve or very short lived.  I never felt like I could really accomplish the art of being filled with joy…so I took the happy days and I was, well, happy.  And then I took the frustrated days, the grumpy days, the emotional days, the I-don’t-like-dishes days…and justified my emotions because my circumstances had shifted and I was entitled.

My husband would gently suggest ideas to try and help.  I would just complain that I didn’t have enough time alone or the kids had been hard that day or I was just tired.  I would schedule play dates or time with friends to distract myself.  It worked for a while.  The day off, the chat with friends, a new shirt, or even a clean kitchen would temporarily appease.  But, since I wasn’t actually dealing with the problem, I would soon need something else and my time with friends slowly became a complaining session.  Even my “public self” was becoming affected by my demeanor.

Jesus addressed this in Matthew 12.  In this chapter, He is discussing issues that the Pharisees had because Jesus was healing on the Sabbath.  Jesus rebukes them and gets right to the matters core here in verse 33 and following:

33 “Either make the tree good and its fruit good, or make the tree bad and its fruit bad, for the tree is known by its fruit. 34 You brood of vipers! How can you speak good, when you are evil? For out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks. 35 The good person out of his good treasure brings forth good, and the evil person out of his evil treasure brings forth evil. 36 I tell you, on the Day of Judgment people will give account for every careless word they speak, 37 for by your words you will be justified, and by your words you will be condemned.”

The only “good” in me, is Jesus in me because I received His gift of salvation (Romans 10:9) and I am saved unto the good works that He has prepared for me (Ephesians 2:10).  Jesus promises to complete a good work in me (Philippians 1:6).  If I am not learning and growing in the truth of Jesus, my heart will be filled with bitterness and evil.  Here’s where we get uncomfortable because no one likes to think of themselves as evil.  But, the truth of Jesus is that there are only two options.  We are either walking in the Spirit or we are filled with evilness. 

Oh but wait!  I thought this was a post about finding joy.  About feeling good.  About being satisfied…You may ask what this brood of vipers and what’s in our hearts has to do with having joy?  You ready for this answer?!   Everything!  Unless your heart is honest and repentant before God, you will never have joy!  You will never feel good inside or be satisfied unless your source is God!

Joy is part of the fruit of the Spirit (Galatians 5:22).  We cannot have joy unless we are abiding in the Spirit of God.  I may be able to display happiness on my own for a short while, but unless I am walking and abiding and filling my heart with things of God, happiness will fade and I will not possess joy.

In .37 seconds, Google gave me OVER 66 million responses when I searched for Joy!  The world wants joy and is trying to achieve it in all the wrong places.  Most of the answers that were provided were actually about trying to be happy.  The definition of joy, simply put, is to have inner delight, to be glad.  Biblically speaking, it is being glad despite your circumstances.  Happiness fades, but true joy is found in the Lord. 

Now that we know all of this, how do we work it out in our practical, everyday life?   This is what I was praying over and thinking about while I did an hour’s worth of dishes, plugged in my old laptop to charge, swept up breakfast crumbs, and refereed a handful of squabbles.  What do I do during my day to cultivate this much desired quality?

  1. I repent of my sin. If we have areas of sin in our life that we have not confessed, we are not able to grow.  Un-repented sin separates us from God.
  2. I ask God to give me joy. God promises to provide spiritual blessings to His children.  It may not change my circumstances, but it will transform my perspective!
  3. I look for circumstances in my day where I see God’s hand at work. I talk about them with my kids or I write them down in a family journal that we have just for this!  The more I focus on what God is doing, the more I will see.  God is always at work and as we grow in Him, we will be able to see it!
  4. Give praise and thanksgiving. Sing songs and speak thanksgiving.  After confessing my sins, I will still have to practice and make a conscious effort to speak words of life.  To be thankful.  As I praise God for all He is doing, I ask Him to put a guard over my mouth.   I practice making a choice to not complain about things, turning my eyes upward to Jesus.  It takes my focus off myself, my surroundings, and my complaints!
  5. I am careful about what I watch, read, or listen to. If I want the abundance of my heart to be joy-filled, then I don’t swallow garbage!  I need to be careful that I watch shows or movies that are edifying and godly.  I read books and magazines that are about growth and life.  I listen to music and participate in conversations that speak life and encourage truth!  Say no to drama and yes to building people up! 
  6. I go about my tasks. There is nothing that the devil likes more than to distract God’s children.  If he can’t have their souls, he will make sure their days are ineffective.  I have learned that the days where I stay on task and work at the jobs God has given me, are great days for the Kingdom!  When I’m eating healthy and exercising, my brain is clear to listen to the Holy Spirit’s promptings.  When I shower and get dressed, I am a lot more productive and I’m not lazy with my behavior.  My body was bought with a price.  I belong to God.  He cares how I treat myself.  Most importantly, when I read my Bible in the morning, it guides my entire day.  I manage my house well.  When I’m listening to God and am filled with joy, He gives me the strength to finish the dishes and laundry!
  7. I leave the rest up to Him. When I am filled with joy, I am at peace.  God takes care of the details.  When I’m being honest, there are not a lot of situations that are important enough for my stress, worry, and un-solicited advice!  If something matters to God and He plans to use me, it will be clear because I am already tuned to His voice.  I already know how He is guiding me, so I don’t need to pick up the cares of the world!

          So, you see.  I started out really concerned about my circumstances and how life just wasn’t suiting me.   But when I laid myself down and pressed into God, repenting and asking for His truth to wash over me, He started to heal me.  It had nothing to do with what was going on around me.  It was about sin.  And about His grace.  And His forgiveness that I desperately needed.  I was so desperate for His forgiveness that it was weighing me down.  I am still being healed by His hand and learning to make joy-filled choices.  But now, there is a quietness in my soul that comes from being content and having joy.  From learning to make choices of obedience.  He’s forgiven me and I cannot express my joy enough! 

If you want to read more about joy and finding true joy, check out these following verses:

Nehemiah 8:10

Psalm 4:7; 21:6; 30:5; 92:4

Isaiah 55:12

Habakkuk 3:18

Romans 15:13

Philippians 2:2

James 1:2

1 John 1:4

Now I’m off to go switch the laundry loads, separate fighting kids, and plan something for dinner…using the dishes I just washed.  But, I will have joy because I have the Lord!  

               

 

 

               

 

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